Parmalee Get Personal on Heartbreaking New Song, ‘How Do I Let You Go’

The song captures the pain of grief and the longing for just one more moment with the ones you love.

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Lauren Jo Black

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November 21, 2025

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Parmalee; Photo by Ryan Young

Parmalee is opening a new emotional chapter with the release of “How Do I Let You Go,” their most vulnerable song to date.

Known for their upbeat, feel-good hits, the group takes a deeply personal turn, drawing from the real-life loss of the fathers of frontman Matt and drummer Scott Thomas, as well as guitarist/pianist Josh McSwain. The heartfelt tune captures the pain of grief and the longing for just one more moment with the ones who meant everything.

Parmalee; Photo by Nathan Wingate
Parmalee; Photo by Nathan Wingate

Lead singer Matt Thomas spoke openly with Country Now about writing the song and the story behind it earlier this week while backstage at the CMA Awards. He explained that the song came from a deeply personal writing session with Parker Welling and co-producers Casey Brown and David Fanning.

“We were talking in the room that day about…one of my co-writers had just, he knew we had went through a lot of death earlier in our life in a period of years. Me and Scott lost our dad, and Josh lost his dad. Scott and I lost our best friend in our early twenties and we all lost several friends together. Suicide. We’ve been through some heavy stuff,” he shared honestly. “And we didn’t bring that to Nashville. It just all happened before we got here. So when we got here, we were just writing happy songs and doing fun stuff for the most part.”

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Wanting to dig deeper than ever before, Thomas and his co-writers thought about those they’ve lost along the way and what they would say to them now if they could speak to them.

“We really, especially having our dads in mind because we played in their bands growing up and they started us in music and they never got to see us have any success. It was always struggle. And so it’s kind of a note to them saying, ‘Hey, wish you were here. We miss you. We’re okay, but we know you’re looking from the best seat in the house and we love you but damn, I wish you were here,’” he explained.

Parmalee - How Do I Let You Go
Parmalee – How Do I Let You Go

This comes to life in the chorus, which goes, “You’re supposed to be here now/ More than a memory/ Was it all in my head/ Feels like a real bad dream/ I thought I had more time/ It hurts like hell that I don’t/ How do I say goodbye/ How do I let you go.”

This may very well become one of Parmalee’s most important songs, one that resonates with anyone who has ever loved and lost someone they wish they could share just one more day with.

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Lauren Jo Black is a longtime country music journalist, editor, host, and media personality whose work has helped shape the conversation around country music for nearly two decades. As the current Editor-in-Chief of Country Now, she has become one of the genre’s most respected voices, interviewing hundreds of country music’s biggest stars, including Dolly Parton, Garth Brooks, Reba McEntire, Shania Twain, Randy Travis, Luke Bryan, Carrie Underwood, Blake Shelton, Luke Combs, and countless others. Over the course of her career, Black’s written work and interviews have reached billions of country music fans worldwide. A 2009 graduate of the University of Central Florida, Black began her career by founding Country Music Is Love, one of country music’s earliest independent digital publications, which she later sold to a major record label in 2015 before it was rebranded as Sounds Like Nashville. She then served as the publication’s Editor-in-Chief for more than two years. Her work has also appeared in Forbes, and she previously served as the Country Music Expert for Answers.com. Widely recognized for her expertise, Black has appeared as a featured guest on The Bobby Bones Show, BobbyCast, and Scripps News Morning Rush, providing insight on country music’s biggest moments. She has also hosted Country Now Live, a concert series featuring performances from artists including Lady A, Dierks Bentley, Riley Green, Jordan Davis, Dustin Lynch, Gabby Barrett, Brett Young, Jon Pardi, Kip Moore, Chris Young, and more. The series has welcomed thousands of fans in person while reaching millions more online. In addition, she hosted Connect With Country Now, a weekly interview series featuring conversations with rising country stars. Throughout her career, Black has earned a reputation for discovering and championing artists long before they become household names. She has covered Luke Bryan since the early days of his career, beginning when he was writing songs for other artists, including Billy Currington’s No. 1 hit “Good Directions,” before stepping into the spotlight with his debut single, “All My Friends Say” and eventually becoming one of biggest names in music. She also gave Megan Moroney her first opportunity to walk a major red carpet as Country Now’s official guest correspondent at the 2022 CMA Awards. An interview she conducted in 2018 for Forbes.com with Luke Combs that inspired his multi-week No. 1 hit, “Doin’ This.” She has also hosted stages at CMA Fest, moderated an industry panel at Country Radio Seminar, and helped lead important conversations about the evolving landscape of country music media. Beyond journalism, Black has also used her platform to support charitable causes and highlight organizations making an impact. Through Country Now Live, she has helped raise awareness and support for St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, while also advocating for animal rescue through Country Now’s Pupdate series, spotlighting organizations including MuttNation Foundation, Wags & Walks, and Proverbs 12:10 Animal Rescue. Black has been recognized as one of Country Aircheck’s Women of Influence and received the 2012 Rising Star Award from the University of Central Florida. She is a longtime member of both the Country Music Association (CMA) and the Academy of Country Music (ACM). After nearly 20 years covering country music, Lauren Jo Black has spent her career telling the stories behind the artists, songs, and moments that have shaped the genre. Her first-ever book, Country Music Forever: An A-to-Z Celebration of Icons, Songs and Stories, brings that same passion and firsthand knowledge to the page, celebrating not only the legendary artists and timeless songs that have become the soundtrack to generations of fans, but also the places, traditions, and cultural moments that have made country music one of the most beloved genres around the world.