How Alexandra Kay Fell for Her Guitar Player Rocko and Found Her Happiest Chapter Yet

Alexandra Kay says she is happier than she’s ever been at this point in her life and a big part of that joy comes from her relationship with Rocko, her guitar player turned boyfriend.

Their love story grew naturally from years of working together. They started off just as friends and bandmates, but when Kay found herself single for the first time in 11 years, she started to see Rocko in a different light.

“I honestly, I didn’t look at him like that,” she admitted during a conversation with Joel Madden on Artist Friendly. “I always say I feel like I fell in love with him before I ever even liked him and had a crush him…it was just like, I loved him so much as a person, as a human, as a friend. And then when I started to feel that romantic connection and that attraction to him, like he was single and I was single at the same time. And I don’t know, we spent so much time together.”

It was Rocko’s kindness, humility, and passion that drew her in.

“He’s an incredible person. And to be completely honest, one night we were having beers backstage like one will do after a show…And I looked over at Beth and I was like, Rocko’s kind of cute. And she was like, ‘what?’ And I was like, ‘maybe I’ve just had too much.’ 

Kay ended up making the first move as she subtly began flirting with him. At first, she admits he was hesitant about their friendship turning into more in fear that it would impact their friendship or he would risk losing a job that means so much to him.

“He would joke around about it and whatever. And then I asked him one time, I was like, ‘there’s something between us, yeah? I’m not the only one feeling this.’ And he was like, ‘yeah, but that’s never going to happen.’ And I was like, ‘why?’ And he was like, ‘because I love my job and I love it here, and this could completely ruin this whole thing.’ And we are so close as a touring family. And he was like, ‘I’m not going to be the one to ruin this dynamic.’ And then he ended up coming around to the idea.”

It’s now been about a year since they made things official and it’s safe to say the two are still going very strong.

“He was very reliable. He’s very sweet, very kind. He was always like, he’s great. He’s one of the best guys I’ve ever met,” she sweetly shared.

Beyond his kindness and humor, Rocko has shown Alexandra Kay that she wasn’t asking too much in past relationships, she was simply asking for the wrong person.

“If you really unpack my last record, a lot of it was me feeling like in my relationship, every little bit of love and affection was pulling it out and honestly feeling like I was high maintenance when it came to love. I remember my ex used to tell me things like, ‘you need to stop watching Instagram reels real relationships aren’t like that.’ And when Rocko and I got together, he just proved to me in such a short time and still does a year later, that I wasn’t asking too much. I was just asking the wrong person…I’m happier than I’ve ever been.”

Plus, the best part about working together is that they get to spend so much time side by side, celebrating this exciting chapter of Alexandra Kay’s music career. Lately, she’s found herself constantly on the move with radio tours, working tirelessly to get her music heard at as many stations as possible. Having Rocko with her for these acoustic performances has given them even more opportunities to connect.

“I’m laying in my hotel room and I look over and he is with me. And although we’re only going to get three hours of sleep tonight and we’re going to be on five planes in the next three days, I am like, ‘we get to do this together.’ And that’s really, really cool because I do think of people that don’t have that, who aren’t in that scenario and how lonely that could get.”

She continued, “I’m able to find that gratitude through all of these times of being tired and kind of getting yanked all around. I’m like, wow, we get to do this together. That’s really, really cool. And what a blessing.”

He’s also a big reason why the “Cupid’s A Cowgirl” singer’s latest album, Second Wind, has such a lighter, more uplifting feel. The record follows her debut, All I’ve Ever Known, which explored the heartbreak of her divorce. Many of the songs on Second Wind were inspired by Rocko and the role he played in helping her embrace a brighter, more positive chapter of life. He also contributed as a co-writer on several tracks, including “Hell Right,” “Feminine Energy,” and the album’s title track.

“The song ‘Second Wind,’ we wrote about kind of just how he revitalized me in this whole me being completely broken and not trusting anybody…And then he just put the wind back in my sails. And so that’s what we wrote ‘Second Wind’ about,” she explained.

All of their hard work on the road has clearly paid off, as shown by the single “Straight For Heart,” which officially hit country radio after its initial release in November 2025. The track made an immediate impression, earning 71 first-week adds and cementing Kay as one of the most notable solo female debuts in recent country radio history.

Looking ahead to 2026, Alexandra Kay is set to hit the road, opening for Cody Johnson and taking her performances overseas to New Zealand and Australia with Old Dominion. At the same time, she’ll continue her nationwide radio tour, bringing her music to fans across the U.S.